Friday, 25 May 2018

Vintage Portraits - Real Housewives of the 1960's


Let’s go back to the 1960’s.

Hello Friends,

Bravo TV announced this week that they are developing a new series with a working title of Real Housewives of the 1960’s.

Here’s the series synopsis;

“In this imaginative docu-series, a cast of modern women will be sent back to the 1960's to experience the ultimate era of the American Housewife. Living in a cul-de-sac of authentic Sixties homes, these women and their families will be transported back into a traditional decade where men made the money, women made the home, and teenagers actually did as they were told. In living through the ‘golden age’ of Sixties family life, the cast will discover if more time spent together, traditional husband and wife roles, and no digital distractions might actually improve their chaotic lives and even fix their relationships.”                            source:  www.vulture.com  


source: www.bravotv.co.nz
R. Eric Thomas from Elle.com called the new show, Wife Swap meets Handmaid’s Tale.

“The “golden age” was remarkably ungolden for many women of color, queer women, and-this may shock you-even some white, middle class housewives.”

He asks what tradition are we talking about here. Or it could be that time when the Wi-Fi went out and move on.
        source: www.elle.com



And the final opinion comes from writer, Taylor Ferber at Bustle.com

“So maybe there is a message and purpose in the madness. Maybe the housewives involved will be unable to live life with such archaic and dated expectations and gender roles. Watching them try and get frustrated and roll their eyes at it all could prove how far things have come, and that we're clearly not in the '60s anymore.”

      source: www.bustle.com


The 1960’s was an era of social upheaval, rebellion and backlash. It was the time of the Vietnam War. There were working mothers, feminism, the arrival of the birth control pill, mini-skirts and the androgynous modelling of Twiggy. JFK was assassinated. Martin Luther King marched on Washington. Technological advances landed men on the Moon. The 1960’s social and political uprisings would shape history for many decades to come.

The new Housewives reality TV series maybe entertainment without the Wi-Fi connection. Will it tap into the revolutionary culture of the 1960’s and give those traditional roles an authentic shake-up? That would bring some va-va-voom to the drama.

Have a happy weekend, 
♥ Ashlyn

Friday, 18 May 2018

Vintage Portraits - The Fashionable Body



“…the exhibit stresses how, throughout the centuries, women in Western culture have been forced, even physically constricted, into molding to bodily ideals.”

—Angelica Frey, https://hyperallergic.com 

Hello Friends,

Have you ever watched a period drama to see the beautiful costumes the characters wore? Ever noticed the portrayal of lithe, or willowy and waif-like figures of the women from centuries ago?

In December 2017, an exhibit at the Museum, Fashion Institute of Technology in New York, showcased society's obsession with the ideal female body through garments from the late 1700s to the present.




Women’s bodies naturally come in all shapes and sizes. Hundreds of years past, striving for fashionable bodies and ideal silhouettes meant creating the illusion of a small waist, hips and bust. Creating such an appearance used torturous devices like metal busks and boning of corsets to narrow the waist. Paddings, girdles, and caged bustles were used to accentuate the derrière or put plainly to make big bums. Other contraptions were designed to do something with the surplus fat and achieve the lissome figure.


The extreme hourglass figure was desired in the Victorian era.
Corsets were worn under maternity dresses.
In the early 20th Century, plus-sized clothing was called stoutwear.

Thank goodness the 1970’s came, and fashion sought to free a woman’s body from all of the unnatural stuff. In the present day, social media is now showing us the diversity of women’s body types and shapes across the world.

If you would like to read more about the evolution of fashion showing in the New York exhibition, here’s two articles.

How fashion has constricted women's bodies over 250 years.

Jezebel spoke to the exhibit’s curator, Emma McClendon, about body positivity, her aims for the exhibition, and the history of clothing for “plus size” bodies. Read the interview.


Enjoy your weekend, 
♥ Ashlyn

Friday, 11 May 2018

2018 Happy Mother’s Day



The Mommy’s Incredible Tummy.

Six year old Tommy was worried about his mother’s tummy growing bigger and bigger.
She laid his hand on her stomach and he felt the kick from the baby inside.

Tommy was shocked.
He stopped talking about his new sister or brother.

One day at school, his teacher asked him about the little baby.
Tommy burst into tears and said, “I think Mommy ate it.”**


Hello Friends,

Mothers are adventurous people. That’s why they were brave enough to have us as children. We turned their life upside down and inside out (hopefully for the better).

Photo by Janko Ferlič on Unsplash
Mothers love us when we’re babies, and also when they’re exhausted from caring for us. Some bubs grow into brats and teenagers with attitude (oh yes, she knows where that attitude came from).

Old mothers don’t know much compared to young adults. Googling, Wiki, and social media sites have the low-down on everything under the sun. I hear you, old Mums can quit being a teacher. They can put their feet up, relax and wonder if their kids will wash the pile of dirty dishes they left on the sink. I still have a manual dishwasher in my kitchen.


Photo by Tyler Nix on Unsplash
Being a mother is being a superhero to the brood. Mothers keep caring and providing the creature comforts for their children. They give us a safe place to express emotions and they love us—the real person who is inside of us.

But mothers aren’t perfect. Sometimes they lose their cool with their small or big kids.

My kids call it,  
“Yelling” when I raise my voice.
 I call it motivational speaking for the selective listener.”                                                                                                                                                                                       source: LoveThisPic.com


At my day job there’s a sign in the kitchen that reads something like, “you didn’t bring your mother to work, so clean up your own mess.”

“Are you kidding me?”
Oh, where did the saying come from?


♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

Photo by Brian Fraser on Unsplash

Got It!

What do young computers do on Mother’s Day?
Give memory cards to their motherboards.
                                                                                                              
source: funkidsjokes.com


To my children:
Never make fun of having to help me with computer stuff.
I taught you how to use a spoon.
                                                                                                              
source: Pinterest


♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

Photo by Gift Habeshaw on Unsplash
Catz are Cool

Two street cats often visit me at my home. Their moods are predictable. Her and him don’t like each other. The hisses are terrible.

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♥ Ashlyn


**I adapted  The Mommy’s Incredible Tummy from a mother’s day joke at, www.myenglishpages.com



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           More Mother’s Day Posts

   2017


To remember mothers, I have written two stories about difficult times when women were in need of charity. While to celebrate mothers, I have links to four stories about inspiring women who turned their good ideas into reality...


2016

It’s time to think about our Mums and what they mean in our lives.
I’ve searched the internet looking for touching tributes to mothers. The sickly sweet, all-sacrificing Mum who is a fountain of ever-renewing love is not a woman I can relate to. I’ve had my bad days of being a mother...


2015

Hooray to all the mothers, mums, moms and mammas, young and old!
Thanks for the love and for keeping the world going round.
Enjoy your special day and every day with your closest and mostest!


Truth Bomb Mom & Toilet Trauma 


“Motherhood is Messy, Get Dirty” -- Kristina Kuzmic, US Social Media SuperMum

Life and Motherhood is not perfect, and Kristina Kuzmic is a woman who learnt the lessons first hand.  She’s another social media star whose life hit rock bottom from a divorce, depression, being homeless with two children, food stamps and poverty...

Friday, 4 May 2018

The Grandmother Warrior




Hello Friends,

In 2017 & 2018, Hollywood gave us movies with fictional female warriors such as Wonder Woman and Black Panther’s, Nakia—a fierce warrior, Okoye, the General and greatest warrior of the nation, and the Dora Milaje—the all-female army.

India has a living warrior, and her name is Meenaskshi Amma. She started martial arts training at the age of 7. Sixty-six years later, Meenaskshi, a grandmother, still practices the ancient tradition of Kalarippayattu.

Kalarippayattu, shortened to Kalari was popular during the medieval period. The martial art is not for any destructive or harmful activity, but for sports and developing strength and self-defense. Interestingly, she says, “any injury caused through Kalari can be cured back with Kalari too.”

Meenaskshi does performance shows of fighting. She also teaches Kalari at her school which also includes children, and she helps young girls to defend themselves. She is a Kalari Gurukkal, which means a master. Sword-wielding and turning swiftly to defend herself, the grand lady warrior of Kalarippayattu defies age.

Watch her in action.



Have a happy weekend,
♥ Ashlyn

The picture of Meenaskshi Amma was sourced from www.indiastudychannel.com/

Friday, 27 April 2018

Movie - "I Feel Pretty"


Hello Friends,

“I Feel Pretty” starring Amy Schumer is an imperfect movie and has been subject to various negative commentaries. I found the movie has some fresh and unexpected moments.

The movie is about;

In I FEEL PRETTY a woman who struggles with feelings of deep insecurity and low self-esteem, that hold her back everyday, wakes from a brutal fall in an exercise class believing she is suddenly a supermodel. With this newfound confidence she is empowered to live her life fearlessly and flawlessly, but what will happen when she realizes her appearance never changed?
 source: movie synopsis

“I Feel Pretty” has gone through a laser-like analysis online of fat-shaming and skinny-shaming, and different forms of rage and upset.

The movie was entertainment to me. I left the cinema pondering Amy Shumer’s portrayal of a woman who’d settled on a mediocre life, and not what she wanted which left her feeling depressed in her basement office. Her lack of confidence stopped her from reaching for her dreams.

After a knock on the head, her outlook on life, work and love changed completely. Nothing was impossible when her perception of herself changed from negative to positive. All of a sudden her dreams were within reach, and she turned them into a reality in her everyday life.

After another knock on the head, the self-illusions changed back to her old negative beliefs but not wholly. 

Here's the trailer...


How would the world be if women had confidence and high self-esteem? If they didn’t think their bodies were too fat or too skinny, but just right? Beautiful came from feeling beautiful about themselves. 

Enjoy your weekend, 
♥ Ashlyn


“I Feel Pretty” poster image sourced from, https://www.imdb.com/ 

Friday, 20 April 2018

Menopause The Musical – Women on Fire



“Inspired by a hot flush and a bottle of wine, Menopause the Musical was created by Jeanie Linders and debuted in March 2001. It’s a celebration of women who are on the brink, or in the middle of, or have survived ‘The Change’.”

Hello Friends,

I was recently invited to a Girl’s Night Out. The phone call came about two hours before the event started. I had to make a quick decision to go or not.

Being the author of Hen Party, an irreverent, contemporary romance story, how could I turn down free tickets to a real life Girls' Night Out? I had to say yes, thank you. The story-teller inside me was hustling me out of the house already. Yeah, no, I just wanted to have a good time!

When I arrived at the venue with my teenager in tow, we were given VIP passes. Huh? Really? I had a moment of brain fail before my lips curled into a smile.

Whoopee, it was my first-time ever as a theatre VIP. I didn’t know what to expect. The first surprise didn’t take long to arrive. There were two topless male waiter’s with gym bodies and brawny muscles. They circulated through the crowd carrying trays of nibbles. The guys didn’t talk much, but they were happy to take selfies with the Instagrammers and Facebookers.

My next surprise came when I found the VIP area. There was a big bucket of ice stocked with small bottles of champagne. I choose pink bubbles. I turned around, and spotted a grazing table full of savoury snacks like cheese, crackers, olives, dips, nuts etc.

Women of all ages and some brave men attended the pre-show drinks and nibbles. After an hour, the bucket of alcohol and table of food was empty. It was hot and stuffy in the lounge area. I lined up at the bar to buy a bottle of water to take into the show. By this time, there were lots of happy, chatty women around me who were waiting to buy more alcohol. Physical barriers had dropped. We squeezed past each other in the queues, knocking hips and bosoms and sharing brief conversations about nothing important.

A sisterhood of boozy gals had formed in the foyer and we were ready to have a fun time in the theater. Menopause the Musical didn’t disappoint. It was hilarious and a terrific comedy. You didn’t have to be a vintage bird or over forty years of age old to appreciate the lively show. My teenager laughed along with the jokes and the distinctively feminine humor that was in the spotlight.

The bird of menopause. Bye, bye birdie. Estrogen takes flight, and naturally declines. 

Menopause the Musical is an award-winning, box-breaking show. So what is it about? A group of four women meet at a department store. They discover they have more in common than shopping for underwear. The experience of menopause unites them in a sisterhood.

I had no idea that singing about the symptoms of menopause and dancing to pop songs from the 1960’s, 70’s & 80’s could be so funny and engaging.

The four women characters (aka, the entire cast) featured in the musical I saw were;

The Farmer’s Wife. Hippy and doesn’t wear a bra. Close to the earth. Her favorite pills were happy hormones.

The Housewife. She wore baggy trousers and a blouse. Frumpish. Her husband was waiting for ‘The Change’ to be over and for her to return to normal. Still waiting.

The TV Soap Actress. Her days of dramatic greatness had faded along with her looks. Younger, beautiful women were taking her place on the telly.

The Businesswoman. She wore a smart suit, high heels and a designer scarf around her neck. Busy, busy working and having meetings. She was too busy to go through menopause.

Menopause was presented as ‘The Change’ in a woman that occurs during the middle years of her life. I remembered my mother’s reluctance to talk about menopause and generally any ailments and conditions suffered by female humans. ‘The Change’ was a polite and vague term used by a generation of women—the baby boomers.

So many changes. The falling apart menopausal woman’s body. Are there any positive changes to add to the muffin top cartoon? 
However, being middle-aged doesn’t necessarily stop women from feeling sexy. Some ladies have made peace with their bodies and enjoy orgasms.  Not all women have the stereotypical menopause experience, and not to argue the point, because this show is a laugh-a-thon.

Hot flashes, loss of bladder control and desperately seeking the toilet were the stars of this stage. How many different ways can you cross your legs, hold it in, and still hobble to the rest room? 
"I made it!" the actress exclaimed on each occasion, until she didn't. 

The brain collapse, was one of the song and dance numbers that I won’t forget, for now. The collapse happens when a sudden dazed state takes you over. You can’t remember what you were thinking about. You can’t think straight or you completely lose the train of your thoughts. Is the brain collapse a menopause exclusive state of mind? Next time I stop speaking mid-sentence, and leave the listener hanging, I’ll going searching for the rest of the words in the vault of butterflies.

A Tina Turner impersonation was a favorite performance with my hometown crowd. The actress wore a grey-haired shaggy wig, tight black leather pants and high, high heels. The wig had its own life force and Tina personality as she danced to the music. We sang along with her. “What’s love got to do with it?” There was a lot of love for the four fabulous entertainers.

Thanks to this musical, Menopause is no longer ‘The Silent Passage’. Women are singing and dancing about it in a touring show.
There’s a wonderful life waiting after ‘The Change’.


Enjoy your weekend,
♥ Ashlyn

Friday, 13 April 2018

The Mature & Ripe Writer



Everyone has a story to tell, but will they ever write the book?
When are you too old to recite your tale?
Never!

Hello Friends,

This week I’m posting about the mature, ripe and ready writer.

Author and physician executive, Julie Rosenberg had a full-time career in Corporate America when she had an idea for a book. At over 50 years of age, she started her writing career from scratch. 

She wrote her book, “Beyond the Mat”, based on her experience as a yoga practitioner and instructor. She didn’t believe she could have written her book earlier in her life.

She says, anyone who keeps learning stays young.

“So keep learning. Take a risk. Try something new. Believe in yourself. Think positively. Think about what all the wisdom of your years makes you uniquely positioned to write about.”

—Julie Rosenberg

Read about Julie’s writing adventure here, “Is it too late to start writing after 50?”  



The romance genre certainly has a few mature-aged authors. Some readers are also searching for stories featuring mature heroines. Two Australians romance authors have previously shared their thoughts on my blog about older heroines, and they become popular posts. If you missed the posts or would like to catch them again, here they are...



Older Romance Heroines with Justine Lewis
Older romance heroines…
“Are they too old or too serious to be shagged senseless by a debaucherous Duke or a sexy billionaire or a ruggedly ripped farmer?” Woah, the hot questions need answers...



Older Romance Heroines with D.D. Line

Older romance heroines…
“Do they lose the desire to be wooed, to be seduced?
Can they be part of a significant romance story?”


Let your stories loose,
and have a happy weekend.

♥  Ashlyn

Friday, 6 April 2018

Old & New Stories of the Earth




“After nourishment, shelter and companionship, stories are the thing we need most in the world.”    —Philip Pullman, Goodreads 


“There’s always room for a story that can transport people to another place.”                                    —J.K. Rowling Goodreads


Hello Friends,

Tell me a story.
We know that fictional stories are entertainment that we watch in movies and read in books. They play on our emotions in good and inspiring ways. In contrast, violent, disrespectful stories are doorways to the dark side of the human psyche.

Stories have the power to affect us. They mirror and explore the human experience. People have a natural curiosity to seek out stories.

So what about stories of the land? Our cultural stories? Over thousands of years, the earth-lore of western societies has lost its power and impact. Dr Sharon Blackie In her article, Re-learning the Stories of the Earth , writes;


“We’re sanitized them and made them more acceptable for the linear, dualistic, patriarchal Western philosophy that straitjackets our lives.”

Indigenous peoples such as Native Americans and Australian Aboriginals still have cultural stories of the land. Their connection to earth, creation, ancestors, and all of the kingdoms are important and vital threads of their societies.



Each of us has a life story. We’ve gathered perceptions from our journey. Stored away our version of reality. There are places on the earth where we’ve felt a close connection to nature. As we walked along our living path, we’ve collected special memories.

It’s most likely that we’ve had encounters with nonhumans such as trees, animals, pets, angels, spirits, aliens…who left an impressions on us, or maybe even changed our lives.  

With the new energy of consciousness that’s lifting higher on earth, the stories of the ancient ones are returning, and we can also remember our personal stories and how they affected our lives.

Our sacredness.
Our connection to each other and to everything, including the nonhumans.

The earth is our enchanted place full of wonder.
We are blessed and held in love.
It’s time to act as loving guardians of our home on Gaia and keep the candle burning in the darkness.


If you would like to see some more pictures of beautiful nature, I have a Google plus site called Ashlyn Brady (Sacred Earth) for the love of Gaia


You're welcome to drop by or friend me. You can find the G+ site here Sacred Earth 

Have a happy weekend!

♥  Ashlyn